Recently, my youngest had his first birthday. I can’t believe how fast the year has passed. Honestly, I had so much anxiety when I found out that I was going to be a mom of two. I was worried about how I would handle everything, if I would be able to be a good mom, and if my oldest son would feel rejected. I’m happy to say that things have turned out beautifully. Sure, there was struggles, especially at first, transitioning from one to two children is probably the hardest. But, things fell into place. I’m confident to say now that I can handle it. This doesn’t mean that there are days that I don’t feel like I am going insane though.
- Becoming a mom of two has given me both patience with both children.
As a mom of two, I know that the sleepless nights of cluster feeding, teething, the diaper blow outs, screaming in the car seat, and the toddler tantrums are just a phase. I’m not denying that they are hard.I’m not denying that I don’t feel frustrated too. I am human but I’m more patient. I am more kind. I take things a lot easier. This has also taught me to be the same with my oldest son.
2. My oldest son has become very empathetic and caring.
When we first brought my second born son home my first born son ignored him. He even went through a small phase of aggression. I honestly felt so sad for my first born. He was use to being around just me and now he had to share his attention. I would cry over this because I thought he was lonely and sad. I thought that it would somehow mess him up psychologically. Honestly, I regret dwelling over this. I think I made a bigger deal out of the situation than what it was. I feel like it took a lot of joy out of me fully experiencing my newborn. In reality, sibling relationships need time. We got through it together. Thankfully, things have fallen into place and they are inseparable. Becoming a big brother makes him so much more thoughtful and caring. He always thinks of his little brother. He shares his food with him, he sings to him when he is crying, and kisses him when he falls down. He helps him drink water from his sippy cup. He is so protective. I love watching this.They always miss each other when they are separated.
3. I learned that I can honestly love more than one child equally.
I made myself feel so guilty over this. At one time, I thought I wasn’t showing as much love to my second born as I did when my first born was a baby. In reality, there may be a difference between how you will see the first and the second child but it’s because your experiences will be different. It doesn’t mean that you will love one more than the other. As a mom, our love can only grow bigger.
Do I get really tired and stressed? Yes!
Do I get frustrated? Yes!
Again, it’s okay and I am human. I have become a better mom. I have become a more confident mom. I’ve handled this a lot better than I thought. I always try to remember to take care of myself. I also accept help with the children whenever I get the chance.